What does it really take to live a life full of success and happiness. It's probably not what you think!
Excerpts from Chapter 17: Success, Happiness, and Your Future
If you ask a hundred people how to achieve success and a happy life, you will get one hundred different answers. Sure, there will be some common answers like having wealth, meeting the right person, or finding the right career. Having lots of friends might even be one. The truth is, being successful, however you define it, and living a happy, fulfilling life are the two most important things you can achieve as a human being. You might think that achieving success should include being happy, but there are many wealthy people that live very unhappy lives. True that!
If you could live every day of your life having all the money you need, all the friends you could want, and all the love and happiness you could possibly ask for, living would be awesome and worthwhile, wouldn't it? So how do you get there? Of course, you are going to have some bad days, some difficulties, and some events that might even be tragic. Aside from that, success and happiness are your God-given rights. No matter what the conditions of your life are today, every human being has the right to be successful and happy. This is a true statement, whether you believe it now or not.
Actually, almost all of us have already experienced this type of happiness early in life. As a child, whether you were wealthy or poor, white, brown, black, yellow, or red, pretty or ugly, fat or skinny, male or female, you played with friends and did not have a care in the world - the very definition of being successful and happy. You played with other people, maybe just a few or maybe a lot. It didn't matter whether they were family or friends, you enjoyed other people.
And then you started growing up. You decided you "didn't like" this person or that person because they were different or because your mom or dad didn't like them. Maybe you didn't like them because your friends didn't like them. You decided you didn't like them because of their color, their size, or nationality. Maybe you even decided you didn't like a brother or a sister, mother or father, uncles, aunts, or other extended family members. But you still had some family and friends (people like you) that you did like. Because everyone else seemed to be this way, you thought you were normal. But this is not normal to the soul. It has become the norm because most people learn bad habits from family, friends - the world at large. Negative thinking like this is the reason for so much anxiety and depression in our population.
Unfortunately, you learned how to not like others from grownups. They didn't knowingly impose this behavior upon you, they just were unaware that you were listening and learning from them. You were listening to them talk and heard the "don't likes" in their conversations. For some, the "don't like" became hate, and there you have it. If you could go back to your childhood, you would clearly see that you loved everything, no matter how rich or poor you were. Everything was an adventure and fun. You only learned to dislike, and that should not be normal. Think about what I have just said. You know this to be true.
How can you be truly successful and happy when you "don't like" or when you hate? My grandmother could not stand the word hate and told me never to use it. I'm telling you the same thing. STOP HATING on people and refrain from using that word. It will get you nowhere in life. Even if someone treats you badly or does something you don't like, don't become a victim of hatred. You don't have to love a person that treats you poorly, or even like them, but don't get comfortable with the feeling of hate. It's destructive! I'm telling you this because as you now know, part of knowing what to do is knowing what not to do. DON'T HATE ANYTHING.
As always, I encourage your participation. SEARCH: and learn. If you have a question, let me know. Take the time to learn something NEW, tell your family and friends, and join the conversation. It's exciting and fun! I look forward to hearing from you. The Artisan Victor